Lost my focus
Ok, buddies, here I am to spill it all out!! I feel like I’ve lost everything I started with (except the weight of course): my motivation, my goals, my focus. Can you help me get it back? I don’t know what is wrong with me. I still want to lose weight, and after my dr’s appt this week I really NEED to lose weight, but I just seem to keep slipping up. I know we can all have those days once in a while, but for me it’s been a 3 week long downward spiral. I didn’t exercise for 2 weeks because of the chest congestion being so bad, but this week I’ve been fine and still haven’t exercised until today, and then it was 2 miles which is ok for starters, but I’m not just starting: I’ve been at this for a long time!! My hubby could tell I have gained some stuff back even it it’s not a lot of pounds some of the “junk” that I had gotten rid of or firmed up a bit is all back now. (just so you know, he was not being mean or insensitive at all, we were just having a conversation about it. He loves me just the way I am!)
I feel like I have no control anymore- I just eat whatever is offered to me or I go get what I want. I’ve been eating out more, even though our finances are so tight. I take 2nd and sometimes 3rd helpings because the food tastes good or I just want it to comfort me. I am an emotional eater, and though I had overcome that for the most part, but I see it happening again. If I keep this up, I’m going to be the same weight (or more) than I was on our vacation last summer, when I saw that picture of myself and flipped out! Even now, I’m only 6 pounds down from then. I mean, I know weight loss is supposed to be slow, but 6 pounds in 9 months? I think I can do a better job than that.
I almost feel like I’m having a small bout with depression, but it’s only over the food thing. In all other aspects of my life, I’m completely happy and content. We have no money, but I’ve decided to stop stressing over that. I just have to pay what I can when I can and be ok with doing that, because there is nothing else I can do. So, anyway, I’m searching for answers and hoping my buddies can give me the swift kick in the butt that I need and remind me why I started this journey in the first place!
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Oh Betsy! (((((((Betsy)))))) ok there’s your hug.. *kick* and now there’s your kick! You know what you need to do and how to do it. Take some time to go back over your old blogs, look at old photos like that one from vacation… and remind yourself what got you started to begin with. Get off your butt and walk your 4 or 5 miles!! The weather’s been nice? Take Mikayla and go for a long walk together. You can do it!!
Baby girl, you don’t want me to kick you because I need one right now too!
Let me calm down and maybe tonight I will have some advice for you. LOVE YA CAT!
I know this sounds very simplistic, but it is also empirically true, if you just go back to doing what was successful for you in the past, you will, usually within three days, readjust.
But yes you also sound depressed. Exercise has been shown to help depression on occasion, but if it goes much beyond that, seek some professional help.
I think you need to sit back and think. Think long and hard about what it is you want and what its going to take for you to get there. Think strongly about what food does to you and whether or not it really helps. When you’re done eating the bad food you feel worst than before you ate it. Mind over body. Our Bodies are merely a vehicle, our mind is what drives us so use it and think wisely. The only person who can truly give you a kick in the butt, is yourself. I hope you feel better soon and like I said, think strongly about everything. If you’re having other issues let them out, talk about it, don’t ignore it. Ignoring it only hurts yourself. even if you feel like no one else wants to hear it, it’ll make you feel better knowing that your problems are being heard. You aren’t alone. Dont give up. Hugs~~
Well, you know I love to give tough love to ya Betsy…but I’m not sure where to start with this one. I too was sick for a week. I too feel better this week. But Nancy convinced me that I needed a week off. Not just off exercise, but off plan. I was losing interest. I think alot of it had to do with it feeling like winter was never going to end here on the east coast. Here is my suggestion…mentally prepare yourself and start again…but maybe with something new. I don’t care if you start today, tomorrow, Monday, whenever but don’t start until you feel you are prepared to start. Maybe you need different workout DVDs, or a new gadget (heart rate monitor, pedometer), or workout clothes. Maybe you should stop WW for a bit and try calorie counting instead. I get the no money thing, but the DVDs and clothes you can find at the Salvation Army or Goodwill for just a few bucks. I also think it would be a good idea to come up with a reward for each day/week/month you stay on plan. The other thing I don’t understand is I have been watching your accountability and it doesn’t seem that bad too me. I think the lack of exercise is what has you down hon. Tomorrow is the first day of Spring and I’m betting that you will start to feel like your old self real soon. ((((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))
Hon I am in the same boat with a lot of things you are. Finances tight for me I was out of work for surgery and then when I got back to work trying to play catch up. I lost my motivation and even thought of leaving buddyslim! Then I thought better of it! I have been here almost 3 years and my buddies are like family! I would not have gotten this far without them. I have found many of my work out videos in thrift stores and even the dollar store! Maybe you just need to shake up that excercise some!
Big HUGS!
((((((((((Betsy)))))))) One thing you said really bugs me, you said you felt like you had not control. But you DO, it is a conscious choice, just make it and do it, Your feelings will follow, I know you can do it!
( ( ( ( Betsy ) ) ) )
Lets draw a line under this… and start afresh! Why not try to stick to plan for one day. Only one day. Decide upon the next day the next day but do this weight loss thing just for one day.
I could say look at all the money you will save etc., but I know from personal experience it doesn’t work.
Extra bites don’t really comfort in the long run and won’t solve any problem.
Do it for one day
and
DO IT FOR YOU
JUdith
I can’t thank you all enough for your encouragement and support…I am feeling better already and thanks to a good friend on this site, have already made some changes which I think will be good for me. I love you all!!
Hey girl,
we all hit with this it seems and these ladies gave you some excellent advice. I’m glad to see your comment that your already feeling better so I dont have to come out with tough love lol. So, all i’m left to say is girl, come out fighting!! whoo hoo you CAN do this!
I think everyone gave you great advice too!
I’d say start over again immediately! If you forgot to brush your teeth today, would you just never brush your teeth? No, you would brush them as soon as you remembered, or could!
Also, maybe start with small goals. Like say your doing well with water, but exercise and eating are the biggest issues. Make a goal to exercise for at least 10 minutes 4 days this week (or so) and then keep increasing it to where you left off. Same with food. Do I make sense?
You can do it!
You can do this Betsy!! What great advice you have already been given. I do believe when you get off plan…like when you were sick…..it is hard to get back in the groove. I have had the same problem lately. I say get that picture out that mordified you and post it on the fridge as a reminder of your goal. I know you will be back in the swing of this in no time.
Take care!